Furthermore, many people who have never been able to count on the affection of an animal are ignorant of what it means and therefore despise and undervalue it. Thus, the person suffering from grief is added another negative feeling, that of the lack of validation of their pain.
A very little recognized duel
Perhaps, if you have been through a grief for your pet, you have met people who have said phrases such as "it is just an animal", "adopt another", among many others. This does not help the person who has just lost his most faithful friend. Can you imagine going to a funeral and saying the same thing about, let's imagine, a baby that has just died? Is it feasible to say "don't worry, you can have another one"? "Can you adopt a father or a mother"? have yours died?
The emotional impact that losing a pet can have is still underestimated. So much so that many people do not feel or suffer if their best friend, for example, is going through a grieving process caused by this loss. What's more, sometimes even talking about the subject is avoided because it is not given importance.
Mourn the loss
When we go through a process of mourning for the loss of a loved one, funeral rites can soothe our grief, it may call around us people we need at that time. The support of the family, the act of burying or cremating him in a way that does justice to him and that allows us to say goodbye as we should to that person offers initial comfort.
Thus, in some way these rites create a context and an atmosphere in which pain can be expressed, accompanied and shared. But what about funeral rites for pets?
It is true that there are crematories for animals, just as there are unique cemeteries for them. Despite this, publicly saying goodbye to your great friend, as you could do to a person, is not similar at all. There is no procedure, a habit that implies that if your dog, cat, rabbit or turtle dies, you have to say goodbye to him as he deserves.
Guilt in grieving a pet
Not saying goodbye to your pet properly can be detrimental to your grieving process for your pet. Especially if you feel guilty about his death. Perhaps your pet has had a health problem and you blame yourself for not taking care or paying more attention. Perhaps those cysts that came from a medication could have been prevented.
These are some thoughts that may haunt our head and that invite us to constantly feel guilty. But, most of the guilt felt by pets are the result of euthanasia, denied to humans, but one of the options that is most used to alleviate the suffering of animals.
Euthanasia makes many people feel guilty about the death of their pets, for ultimately dating it. Even many people who choose euthanasia end up feeling like murderers. But, we must not forget that when this option is used it is because there were no alternatives for salvation.
This is where support is essential. Let the person who has suffered the loss put words to that feeling, bring it to life, and deal with it. Do not keep it in the shoe like a stone that little by little damages your skin.
A new pet
The person who has suffered the loss in an early phase of the grief is probably not ready to have another pet. It is common for you to feel that in some way you betray the memory of the one who has passed away, putting another one that somehow usurps her place. It is also not good because the new pet because it can predict a new future suffering like the one that is happening now.
What the person who has suffered such a great loss, such a deep wound, needs is affection, time to speak, to be in silence, to get mad at the world, to ask questions and above all a hand when it gives the first signs that you want to move from one phase of grief to another, until the experience is integrated into your life.
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